Lower the tone!

Have you ever noticed what happens to your voice when you become agitated or upset? For many people, it tends to get a bit high, a bit louder and even a bit screechy. If you notice this happening to you, how about trying to lower the tone? Consciously try to bring your voice back down a few notches, to a normal level – or even lower than a normal level. It’s a trick that some people use to feel more in control, and it can work really well when things are getting a bit heated. It’s something that I use in my assertive/confidence training course: practising when you are in an ordinary situation first can really help so that when you find yourself in a tricky situation, you can employ your well-rehearsed lower tone and see what magic ensues. By the way, a deep breath beforehand also works wonders. How could you lower the tone this week and release your inner Barry White?!
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