Have you heard of destination addiction?
It’s the preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job and with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.
These are attempts to get on with life faster in the hope that we will enjoy our lives better. And yet our constant speeding means we frequently dash past golden opportunities when looking for something better, or we are too busy speeding along to be receptive to the good stuff in front of us.
The thing about destination addiction is that it focuses purely on finishes and not on purpose.
What can we do about it? There is no singular correct answer but there seems to be a theme: to find fulfilment in what you are right now. It might be in aspects of your work life, your social life, home life or something else. Think back to a few years ago and notice whether what you yearned for then was what you have now. Perhaps your priorities have changed and you now want different things. How do you find fulfilment in what you have or are now?
I used to dream of a time when, at work, I could make all my own decisions and would not be tied to someone else’s timetable or ideas. In the main, I now have this – yet find myself wishing for a time when I don’t have to make all the decisions! Having strived so hard for something, I realise that it’s not perfect even though it’s what I want.
Here are some ideas of how to find fulfilment now. Note down:
It’s not about forgoing a shiny future, but it is about recognising all the good stuff today.
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