In my training courses, I regularly refer to two different types of personality (broadly speaking): drains and radiators. ‘Drain’ personalities tend to suck the energy out of a situation, metaphorically draining the life out of things, leaving you feeling diminished after you have been with them. On the other hand, radiators bring warmth, life and enthusiasm; they are a tonic to be around and people usually feel better after having spent time with them.
Rather than focus your efforts on trying to change drains, think about how you can be more radiator. Notice, then choose to overlook, drain behaviour; it’s not about ignoring people – just observe without reacting. Concentrate on how your behaviour can be more radiator: how you can bring warmth, energy, enthusiasm, playfulness and inquisitiveness to each situation. The more practised you become at being a radiator, the less space there will be for ‘drain’ behaviour.
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