Be more radiator

In my training courses, I regularly refer to two different types of personality (broadly speaking): drains and radiators. ‘Drain’ personalities tend to suck the energy out of a situation, metaphorically draining the life out of things, leaving you feeling diminished after you have been with them. On the other hand, radiators bring warmth, life and enthusiasm; they are a tonic to be around and people usually feel better after having spent time with them.

​Rather than focus your efforts on trying to change drains, think about how you can be more radiator. Notice, then choose to overlook, drain behaviour; it’s not about ignoring people – just observe without reacting. Concentrate on how your behaviour can be more radiator: how you can bring warmth, energy, enthusiasm, playfulness and inquisitiveness to each situation. The more practised you become at being a radiator, the less space there will be for ‘drain’ behaviour.
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