One of the greatest bits of life-guidance I have ever come across is this:
“Nothing others do is because of you.” (Ruiz)
It totally blew me away when I first came across it and it still makes me stop and think each time I ponder on it. No more thinking that we can make someone sad, upset, happy, or whatever. It has nothing to do with us.
What if we didn’t take anything personally? What if we are immune to what other people think of us or do around us? For many, this seems like an unreachable zenith, while for others it is a daily norm. Either way, when we become ‘untouchable’ (in an emotionally-healthy way, obviously) and are unconcerned by other people’s actions and words, we can truly live more freely.
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”
Isn’t it interesting how your thoughts have a huge impact on your life? If you always think the same, you will always get to the same place. If you think in a new way, you will find new solutions and ways of doing things. And to extrapolate a little further, if you create peace in your mind, you will create a world of peace around you. You are in charge of your thoughts and your life and you can adapt to make the changes you would like to see in your world.
I can’t be the only person who looks at their life and thinks, ‘What have I actually done that is any good?’ It’s usually when I’m tired and possibly overheated that I start to lose hope and wonder what my life purpose is! So, at these times, it’s really important to remember one small thing: that we need only to look back throughout our lives and remember all the good actions we have ever performed, from the smallest to the grandest. When we see how much happiness we have contributed to, and how much benefit we have brought, we can easily remember the purpose of our lives.
It is well known that exercise can have a positive effect on mood, but how long do you need to exercise for, how difficult does it need to be, and what type of exercise is best? My immediate answer would be: it’s different for everyone.
But I may be wrong, as recent research findings from The Journal of Psychology, Interdisciplinary and Applied suggest otherwise. The researchers collated evidence from 38 relevant studies that examined the associations between exercise intensity, duration and modality and any effects on mood. They found lots of contradictory results so here is a run-down of the main bits:
- 10 minutes often appears sufficient to achieve gains in mood (although one study found that 30 minutes was required to achieve feelings of increased vigour).
- The optimum for improving mood is moderate intensity, perhaps because low intensity is too dull while high intensity is too unpleasant.
- The beneficial mood effects of aerobic exercise (walking, jogging, cycling) are less consistent than is found with anaerobic exercise, and anaerobic exercise (lifting weights, sprinting) appears especially to be more beneficial for beating stress and anxiety.
If you are thinking about the optimum type of exercise for your own mood, the common-sense message is to take into consideration your own fitness level and preferences, to find that sweet spot: the exercise that is enough of a challenge without being unpleasant. I would add that you would need to enjoy it too!
Read the whole article here.
Have you ever wanted to fix someone else’s life? Many of us are great fixers, and as we watch others we can hear ourselves attempting to 'sort them out'. We hear it in our conversations with others and with ourselves: "They shouldn't... Weren't they awful...? Did you hear about so and so...? In my opinion, they should…" and so on. It’s tantamount to gossip of the most destructive kind. And I find myself doing it quite frequently at the moment.
When we do this, we waste time trying to write the script of other people’s lives and thereby forget to write our own. We have no right: it is none of our business, and any attempt to do so is pointless, maddening and doomed to failure.
Let people be, and don't miss your life by trying to live or write someone else's.
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