One of the greatest bits of life-guidance I have ever come across is this:
“Nothing others do is because of you.” (Ruiz)
It totally blew me away when I first came across it and it still makes me stop and think each time I ponder on it. No more thinking that we can make someone sad, upset, happy, or whatever. It has nothing to do with us.
What if we didn’t take anything personally? What if we are immune to what other people think of us or do around us?
For many, this seems like an unreachable zenith, while for others it is a daily norm. Either way, when we become ‘untouchable’ (in an emotionally-healthy way, obviously) and are unconcerned by other people’s actions and words, we can truly live more freely.
Do you ever say, “I can’t do that!”? Do you find it difficult to imagine yourself succeeding? Perhaps you never try new things because you don’t think they will work out for you. Self-limiting beliefs are one of my favourite things to tackle. And as regular readers of this blog know, I love a pithy phrase to make my point! Here’s one I saw yesterday that made me go “Ha!” out loud.
“If you believed in Father Christmas and the tooth fairy for 10 years, you can surely believe in yourself for five minutes.”
The biggest difference between successful and unsuccessful people (in all aspects of life) is that successful people believe in themselves and are determined to make the situation work for them; they don’t play the victim role and find reasons why a situation won't work.
No idea will work for everyone, but many ideas can work for most people, if you believe that you can make them work. You have to be willing to not just think differently, but to also to experiment with new ideas and trust that you'll discover a way to make them work. Belief in yourself is the first step!
Such simple lyrics from a beautiful song (answers on a postcard!). It struck me as I lay in bed this morning listening to the rain that this time of year really is the best for weather treats: really warm sun and, finally, gentle rain. Having planted seeds in my veg patch last weekend, I’m filled with anticipation every day to see if they have done anything visibly exciting. It’s perfect growing weather for seeds… and perfect weather for us too, as we leave winter behind and turn our faces towards the sun and feel the rain on our faces. So if it’s raining where you are today, instead of grumbling about it, try revelling in it instead.
Something different for you this week! It’s a link to a really interesting short clip by Oxford Family Hypnotherapy owner Julia Watson on the subject of ‘busyness’. Julia explains how the brain works in times of anxiety and what you can do about it. Fascinating and useful - a great combination! Follow the link: https://www.facebook.com/OxfordFamilyHypnotherapy/videos/1383007251736700/
I’d love to hear what you think – does it make sense to you?
Urgh! I really can’t stand this phrase – and any other that is about getting bikini-ready (or Speedo-ready, for that matter) – on so many levels. Firstly, what with being so busy working, looking after children, and having a life, many people have little time for worrying about this sort of thing, and even those who do might only manage a swimwear wardrobe for a couple of weeks out of 52. Secondly, what does a summer body actually look like anyway? Surely it’s the same as a winter/autumn/spring body, just in different clothing; what you choose to wear is entirely your business. And thirdly, and this is my main point: why does a summer body apparently need any more attention than at any other part of the year? Our bodies need properly fuelling, exercise (movement) and care all year round – and for our whole lives. There are no healthy nor sustainable ‘quick-fixes’, so I urge you (if you were considering it) to jump off this ludicrous bandwagon and live well every day.
Here's a photo to bring back some perspective: nature in all its beauty.
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